Thursday, October 20, 2011
Being the Meany
I don't want to tell my children with disabilities that they can't do something, but I'm finding that I have to sometimes.
Ronnie is scheduled to attend a basketball event at a college about 45 minutes from our home on Thursday night, a school night. He probably will not be home until at least 10am and then has to get up early the next morning.
He also has asked to go to the school homecoming football game Friday night, again not getting home until at least 10pm.
Saturday morning, we are scheduled as a family to drive to the mountains, about an hour away, to pick apples. It will be a long day.
Given his medical issues, I think trying to pack all those things in during the course of 36 to 48 hours will stress his health. He, of course, doesn't agree with me. But as the parent, the final decision rests with me.
I have told him that he can go to the basketball event, and that we will go as a family to the mountains, but he can't go to the football game. I believe he needs Friday night to rest and take care of himself.
As you may imagine, I am not his favorite person at the moment. How have others of you dealt with this? Kids his age (16), disabled or not, feel invincible. But they often do have health needs that require us to step in and make decisions. Any advice???