Monday, January 23, 2012
I believe one of the biggest fears of parents of children with disabilities is being falsely accused of child abuse or sexual abuse of your child. This is an even bigger worry for parents of children who are non-verbal, or single parents raising children of the opposite sex.
Check out this story posted by Roy Ellis, a father to 11 children - A Dad's Nightmare Over False Sexual Abuse Charges.
I, too, have been accused of child abuse. My now 21 year old daughter honed the art of false accusations. Jessica was (and still is to a degree) a child who would erupt in outbursts of rage and aggression. Although she did frequently and seriously hurt others (she broke two of my ribs during one of her rages), she would hurt herself also. Because of her hemiplegia she has limited use of her left side and during her rages, she would lose her balance and fall. Many times she would go to school or daycare and tell the staff that I was the one who hurt her.
The feeling of having child protective services show up at your door is beyond words. I was fortunate because I had a large support group who could speak to what really happened, and most importantly, child protective services believed my support group and me. But many many parents are not believed.
What about you? Have you had this experience? Has someone put words into the mouth of your child, or witnessed something they didn't understand? Have you been accused and had to defend yourself? How have you survived this?