Monday, January 19, 2009
Too Fat To Adopt?
Adopting a child can be a very daunting task. I’m not talking about parenting an adopted child, but rather, the process of being approved to adopt and then finding a child. Potential parents can have no secrets. Your adoption worker and their agency are going to want to know what your salary is, your bank account information, what type of house you live in, your psychological history, what at least three of your friends think about you, whether you have ever been convicted of any crime and especially crimes against children, and your health history.
It’s a good thing that all my adoptions happened before I was diagnosed with Lupus and Rheumatoid Arthritis. I don’t know if I could have gotten approved had those conditions been diagnosed prior to my wanting to adopt a child. I honestly cannot imagine what my life would be like if Ashley, Jessica and Corey were not in it. So I wonder what would have happened if my health had not appeared perfect.
A family in the UK doesn’t have to wonder. Although they passed almost every investigation of their adoption agency, they have been denied the right to adopt. Why? Because someone feels the husband is too fat. Here is a link to the news story.
And this is not a one-time occurrence. A woman in Australia also was denied the right to adopt because she was considered obese. Here is a link to that story.
How do you feel about these stories? Is it better for a child to stay ‘in the system’ instead of with a Mom and a Dad, one of whom is considered obese?
My question is who decides which medical conditions are deemed ok for an adoptive parent and which are not?
Thankfully, in my case, my diagnoses weren’t present during my adoption home studies. I know I am prejudiced, but I can’t imagine anyone being a more suitable and loving parent to my three special adopted children than I have been. It worries me that the families in the two stories above may never have the chance to say the same thing.